Author: Dr. Ashley Houchin

It’s that time of year! You’re learning of all the possible places your kiddo might be able to attend college. It’s an exhilarating and terrifying time for the whole family. While I’m sure you are thrilled that your teen is getting accepted to colleges, you might also feel stressed about watching them spread their wings. Here are 3 signs that you teenager is ready for college:

1. They’re taking ownership of responsibilities

As children emerge into their teen years, they are afforded more independence with continued oversight by parents. As your teen is preparing for college, they should continue to gain independence in managing their responsibilities. Such responsibilities include: medical and behavioral health, academics, and administrative tasks. This means everything from managing a healthy diet and routine sleep habits, to following-up with teachers about missed assignments and even scheduling doctors’ appointments. Additionally, your teen should be able to manage a calendar, meet deadlines, and fill-out forms. Allow your child to practice these tasks independently and let them know you’re available if they need help.

2. They’re able to identify positive coping strategies

We all face hardship from time-to-time and teenage life is fraught with emotional turmoil. It’s actually a great opportunity to learn how to deal with adult life. Another important lesson of adulthood is to take responsibility for our actions and learn from poor decisions. Pay attention to how your teen manages the stress in their life. If they perform poorly on a test, do they go for a run or grab a beer? Assist them in identifying positive coping strategies when they are faced with challenging situations.

3. They know when and how to ask for help

While gaining more independence is a growth-promoting experience, we all must learn to know our own limits. Often, the adjustment to life away from home can be a little rocky and stressful. Your teen should be prepared to meet various challenges in adult life. As they gain independence, it’s never a sign of weakness or failure if they come to you for help. Help might be asking for more money in the middle of the semester, but it might also be asking how to navigate a difficult roommate situation. Parents aren’t the only people teens turn to for help. Encourage your teen to explore the resources available to them on-campus such as a resident assistant on their dorm floor (RA) or on-campus counseling services. Additionally, help them to know when they’re in “over-their-head” and how to get help in an emergency.

Going away to college can also be fun, for your teen and your family. Be sure to enjoy the process with your child. This is not only an opportunity for them to become educated and seek opportunities that may launch their career, it’s also an opportunity for them to feel proud of their abilities to manage responsibilities, perfect their coping strategies, and learn about themselves.

If you’re worried about your teen or would simply like them to have extra support prior to a transition away from home, please contact our Group Services Coordinator, Dr. Ashley Houchin, at 630-571-5750, ext. 242 or complete our inquiry form online. We will be running a Group for college-bound teens in the spring.